It’s been interesting what I’ve learned about myself since I started publishing my thoughts about my journey.
In the last week many people have reached out to me, compelled to tell me stories about their journeys.
All but one were saying subtly “I had it harder than you and if I could make it through so can you, buck up soldier” this caused me to reflect if I was doing the same things, and yep, completely true of myself as well. So, what now?
Well for me, when someone tells me their story I’m going to say “that sounds terrible, I can’t imagine going through that”. This adheres to my second rule for life treat every disagreement like you would a 5-year-old. My response was kind, true, and exactly what I meant. Anything other than that and I’m not being genuine to myself and my inner 5-year-old.
Brothers check your obligations
But, you don’t seem mentally ill? This is an actual phrase that was said to me in lodge by a VW. Sir. who then commenced to say “hey so-in-so I’ve had dyslexia for my entire life, maybe I can get some free money” it was at this point I unceremoniously left the banquet.
These types of statements are why people kill themselves in hotel rooms. Mentally ill people are not supposed to exist outside of institutions as it offends society’s delicate sensibilities. I’ve had the same problem with my spouse actually and it’s because she cares for me that I’ve had this problem. She just wouldn’t let herself see me, it was too painful for her. So she did the only thing she could, try to fix me which triggered a forgotten problem I had. No one ever believed that my mother tortured me. So I did the only thing I could, try to manipulate her into caring for me. As a strong independent black woman, she sensed immediately and this made her steadfastly resolute.
How we both got out of this cycle I have no idea but I imagine it was Patricia.
In my opinion, how you answer this question defines you.
Do any of your opinions on Trans rights stipulate that there is something deficient in them?
If the answer is yes, then there really isn’t anything left to say. As unless society believes that they are fine the way they are there will never be a middle ground as they are fighting for their right to exist.
No one should be made to feel that their existence is an issue and I would caution any brother to ask themselves the question above. Then check their obligations and ask, if one of their family members who are struggling would feel comfortable confiding in you. Again, if the answer isn’t a yes, then they must check their obligations. stepping off my pulpit 🙂 hopefully, I don’t fall off this pedestal